I was listening to recording of a talk given some years ago by Dr. Edwin Louis Cole. He observed that there can be a difference between what people say is important to them. He noted that we invest our lives in the the things that really matter to us, no matter what we say (or think) we care about. He says that you can tell what really matters to a person by looking at two pieces of evidence: their diary and their bank statement.
There are people that I consider important to me. Do I really prioritise them above other things? More importantly, I (somewhat arrogantly) consider myself to be Christian. Do I actually give first place in my life to Christ?
When I look at the evidence, my diary and my bank statement, I recognise that there are changes I need to make.